How to tell about domestic violence

Remember, your voice matters, and by sharing your experiences and needs openly, you can empower yourself and pave the way for the help and support you deserve.

Be brave, direct, honest, and open

Don't be afraid. You can be direct, honest, and open when talking about your experiences with professionals. You were the one that had to live through them. You don't need to protect the listener. Avoid hinting or speaking indirectly, as people cannot read minds.

Provide specific details for professionals about what happened and when it occurred

Be thorough in your description and consider writing them down. When talking with professionals, inquire about who will document these details. These details might be usable as evidence.


Share how the violence felt and describe any physical injuries you sustained. If necessary, display all your injuries and take photos of them. If you have any existing photos of previous injuries, share them as well.


Additionally, discuss the mental consequences, such as difficulty sleeping, anxiety, tearfulness, depression, panic symptoms, and nightmares. Remember that physical symptoms can also result from experienced violence, including heart issues, tremors, and difficulty breathing.

Show relevant messages

Show professionals any intimidating, threatening, or offensive messages you have received. Preserve evidence by saving these messages.

Openly share your worries and fears

Be open about your concerns regarding the situation and express your fears. Discuss the impact of violence on your life, both presently and in the past, and how it has affected others involved, such as children or pets in the family.

Tell what type of support and help you need

Additionally, communicate the type of help or support you want.
Share if you have sought assistance for violence in the past and explain what did or did not help.

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