Effects of violence
Violence always has effects on all parties involved. The person experiencing violence and the children in the family are particularly affected, but the perpetrator of violence also suffers consequences. Additionally, friends, relatives, and the work community indirectly experience the effects of violence. It impacts self-esteem, self-image, identity, social circle, and overall health.
Violence experiences shape thoughts about the world, people, and one's own potential, significantly affecting mental well-being. Coping skills deteriorate, social circles shrink, work attendance and financial situations may be impacted, and parenting may become challenging.
Gradually, the victim of violence begins to feel worthless and internalises the abusive words they hear. They experience intense guilt and shame, believing they are partially responsible for the violence in the relationship.
Many victims begin to regulate their activities. To prevent further harm, they may sever contact with friends, family, and relatives, isolating themselves to be there solely for the perpetrator. Superficial connections with friends may be maintained, but discussions about violence remain avoided, leading to immense loneliness.
Sustained exposure to mental violence can result in depression, anxiety disorders, panic disorders, or obsessive-compulsive disorders. These conditions are reactions to an overwhelming life situation. Traumatic experiences are also linked to somatic health issues. Autoimmune diseases can develop in individuals who have experienced violence.
Violence also inflicts physical injuries, ranging from mild wounds and bruises to fractures. However, it is crucial to remember that violence can cause severe physical harm, including life-threatening injuries or death.
Experiencing violence within close relationships inevitably affects work well-being and coping at work. The individual is stressed and may struggle with concentration. Paradoxically, some victims find solace in work as it offers respite from violence during working hours.
Fear and subjugation lead the victim to believe they are worthless and incapable of living without the perpetrator or violence. Leaving an abusive relationship is daunting. Depending on the situation, leaving might also increase the risk of serious violence, so it is recommended to seek support for planning and the period of the detachment. According to research, it takes, on average, seven attempts to leave an abusive relationship for good.
Economic violence, in particular, often leads to financial hardships, even heavy debt, damaged credit, payment defaults, or foreclosure. This, in turn, significantly disrupts daily life and the process of building a new life.
Perpetrators of violence are often highly stressed and may have untreated traumas or mental disorders. Many regret and feel shame for their violent actions and do not want to be identified as violent.
Holding perpetrators accountable for their actions is crucial in breaking the cycle of violence and creating a safer society for everyone.
A parent who experiences violence is burdened, making it difficult to care for their children. They may adapt their parenting style and daily routines to minimise the occurrence of violence.
An abusive parent cannot provide a safe and reliable environment. Every child has a right to live in a safe and stress-free home. The presence of violence disrupts family life and lowers the threshold for using violence against one's children, according to research. The tolerance for everyday challenges and the demands of raising children decreases.
Frequently, parents avoid discussing violence directly and honestly with their children, creating an atmosphere of uncertainty in a family grappling with a significant problem. It is important to raise awareness about the effects of violence on children and provide them with the necessary support and protection.
In conclusion, violence has far-reaching and devastating effects on individuals, families, and communities. Recognising the harmful consequences of violence and taking proactive steps to address it is essential.
We encourage and support those who have experienced violence to seek help; there is no need to feel fear or shame. Professional assistance, shelters, and support networks are available to provide guidance, resources, and a safe space to heal. By openly discussing violence, educating ourselves and others, and advocating for change, we can work towards preventing and addressing intimate partner violence.
Let's take action by promoting empathy, understanding, and respect in our relationships and communities. We can create a culture of safety, healing, and compassion by standing together and refusing to tolerate violence. Remember, you are not alone; help is available.
